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I Want It Now 

Delayed gratification can be one of the most challenging principles to practice. The idea of putting off something today for a better tomorrow, for the sake of being a responsible person, can sometimes seem un-appealing. In order to change our perspective, we have to look at the core of the opposite mindset, immediate gratification. This antithesis that says “I want it now” is birthed out of insecurity that believes that if i don’t get this “_____” now, I will not have the opportunity in the future. (The blank could be a purchase, job, relationship, or anything… ) Its the fear of loss combined with the fear of failure. 

There is a school of thought that says “The opportunity of a lifetime has to be redeemed in the lifetime of the opportunity”. This statement would only be true if there is really only one opportunity. We do not see our life in completion, so we never fully know how our decisions cause a ripple effect on the rest of our life, or the lives of the people we interact with (intentionally or un-intentionally). Because of this limited vantage point, we cannot operate in fear. We must believe the idea that, if "I pass on this particular opportunity, it will not be the last one" and, "I am only going to get better as time progresses, which will allow for more and better opportunities." 

So with every crossroad we come to, we have to ask ourselves “Is this really what’s best in the grand scheme of things?” If it's not, we need to develop the confidence to pass on it for now. 

An opportunity missed is not necessarily an opportunity lost!

Put Me In Coach 

“Put me in coach!” It’s the sound of a young player trying to get in the game! In the game of life there are many times when we feel like we are ready to contribute to our team, or job, or whatever organization we are apart of. Sometimes our desire is not just to contribute but to get to that erroneous “next level”… 

Something to consider; Usually when we “think” we are ready, we are usually not quite ready. This is the case in almost every stage of life. When we are first ready to communicate we try to speak but cannot. It is all gibberish until we start putting together words, then phrases, then complete thoughts or sentences. When we think we are ready to walk, we still have not fully developed the strength, coordination, and balance to avoid falling over. Even though failure is inevitable it is not final. It is simply part of the process and in MOST areas of life it is impossible to have success with out some failure. 

The feeling of being ready is a sign that in fact you are almost there. Remember that you are typically not qualified for a promotion or new opportunity until you are over qualified for your current position. Continue to prepare and trust the people around you to continue to encourage and support you.Trust the process and when it is your time, it will be your time!